Transformation is a powerful tool for awakening to the spirit
that lives within each one of us. This
process can complement the journey of anyone who seeks to be
more in touch with their spiritual nature.
Like the image of David
freed by Michelangelo’s vision and his loving hands, our true essence
as spiritual beings comes to light as we sculpt through the layers of
“shadow stuff” that keep us from fully experiencing the “David”
within. Unlike Michelangelo, however, we cannot simply carve away our
shadows (aspects of ourselves that we try to hide or deny because we
have deemed them unacceptable.) We must transform them.
developer of the Core Transformation process, states on her audiotape
“Spirituality in NLP”, [Some] parts of ourselves can connect deeply
right away to our sense of our spiritual nature..., and then we have
other parts of us that come out in daily life that seem totally
different.... We meditate, we pray, we do whatever it is to develop our
spiritual nature. And then we have these other parts that get angry,
that feel jealous, that are enraged at things, that feel intimidated
sometimes--that don’t seem very spiritual.
Transformation, we look to our non-spiritual parts for the bit of Spirit
that we’ve been missing, that we’ve been leaving out in some way.
These words resonated
with me when I first heard them several years ago. I was looking for a
way to deal with those unacceptable parts of myself that seemed
polarized to my desired outcome of evolving Spirit-ward. This
polarization had tormented me for much of my life. It was important to
me to present myself as a kind and loving person, yet I didn’t always
feel loving and kind.
I distinctly remember
one night when I was in college, feeling full of anger, self-loathing,
and shame, all for no readily apparent reason. The occasional uprising
of this terrible shadow disturbed me greatly, and on this particular
night I was in tears, feeling empty, alone, and without inner resources
to calm myself. My solution at that time was to call a friend and
timidly confess to her what a horrible person I was. I have no
recollection of her specific response to me, but I know I felt liberated
by the experience of admitting to her the existence of this shadow and
that I felt embraced by her loving acceptance of me, shadow and all.
Just that much was enough to free me for the time being, until I
discovered other resources for more complete resolution.
Many authors and
leaders in the field of spirituality today are addressing the age-old
need to include in our spiritual work some practice of embracing and
integrating (rather than attempting to transcend and bypass) our
shadows. Paradoxically, the darkness is the source of great light. I,
for one, appreciate the direct, trustworthy path offered by the practice
of Core Transformation to assist us in transforming our “shadows”.
“Brenda” was a
participant in a Core Transformation workshop. She was struggling with
an addiction to marijuana. As a psychotherapist, she worked with
children and adolescents, so she tried hard to hide her addiction.
Although she didn’t go to work while under the influence, she obsessed
on the job about getting to go home and smoke.
With great courage, she
identified the transformation of this addiction as her primary focus for
the weekend workshop. What she discovered was that the underlying
positive purpose of the addiction was to have a deep sense of peace
within. She had longed for a sense of peace as a young child but had
never experienced it fully.
As she was guided through each step of the
Core Transformation process, she was able to integrate this sense of
peace into her life--past, present, and future--in such a compelling way
that she no longer felt the urge to smoke marijuana. Two months later,
she reported on the freedom she had found . “I don’t have to go
there anymore....[“Inner Peace”] is integrated throughout my whole
body and limbs, not just my head or my heart.... I don’t even think
about it anymore.”
In his wonderful poem
“The Song of a Man Who Has Come Through,” D.H. Lawrence exclaims,
"What is the knocking? What is the knocking at the door in the
night? It is somebody wants to do us harm. No, no, it is the three
strange angels. Admit them, admit them."
The practice of Core
Transformation nudges us insistently in the direction of our true
nature, what Pythagoras described as our “divine humanity”. No
matter what shadow thoughts, feelings, and behaviors we face, the
positive purpose knocking at the door of consciousness (in the form of a
limitation) has everything to do with reawakening to our spiritual
nature. When we lovingly open the door and invite deep dialogue with
these strange angels, we rediscover aspects of ourselves that have been
hidden in darkness. Typically described with words like “Peace”, “Love”,
“Oneness with God”, “Being”, and “Wholeness”, the Core
positive purpose is a wellspring of generative change and healing which
supports being in touch with our spritual nature.
In my own experience
practicing Core Transformation through time, I’ve been pleasantly
surprised to find that some shadow parts are transformed even without my
conscious participation. Other people have reported similar findings. As
with any practice, at some point Core Transformation seems to take on a
life of its own. Our unconscious minds become so familiar with the
process that we may find ourselves spontaneously stepping into profound
states of peace and joy, and limitations resolving easily and naturally.
Through the practice of
Core Transformation, we come to wholeheartedly appreciate, rather than
judge and reject, the parts of ourselves that still lurk in the shadows.
When we follow the deep longing within the shadow, it reliably guides us
to our true selfhood--to the Spirit within.
M.A., is a certified Core Transformation Trainer and Master
NLP Practitioner with a private practice based in Glenwood Springs,
CO. She can be reached at tilicho [at] sopris.net.